How or where do you picture the people that you knew who died? I don't mean just Heaven or Hell but what do you picture them doing? Sitting on a cloud with wings and a Halo? I have been around death coming from a large family and even my Father passed away recently in March. Over the weekend my brothers friend passed away at 40. This is the first person that I know of to die in my "Tier" on a 3 tier picture. Tier 1 being Aunts, Uncles, people older than you. Tier 2 being people I knew personally and are my age. Tier 3 I don't even want to dwell on but people younger than me, children. My bro's friends death has messed me up. He was my bro's friend but I still knew him as a kid. He treated me like a younger brother. I swam in his pool when our families got together. I remember him riding a bike, his first car, going to college, many many memories over 30 years that I can remember him. I talked with him. More than an Uncle or an Aunt conversation of How's School going, what do you plan to do when you grow up? I knew this guy and we talked. I have had a picture of life after death in my mind for a long time. I had 10 Great Aunts and Uncles who grew up in a 3 bedroom house/apt. They all married so there was a total of 20 Great A and U's. I remember going to this house when I was younger with my grandparents. I always remember the A and U's sitting around the kitchen table. The men all drinking their coffee and the women buzzing around the kitchen cooking, getting stuff out of the fridge, putting food on the table. I always pictured that when one of them died they walked up the stairs to the house/apt. As the door opened all of the A and U's greeted them, moved over and pulled up a chair. Since my Dad died in March I pictured him going to this kitchen for a visit. These A and U's are from my mom's side but I picture Dad stopping by. I hadn't really placed him anywhere yet but I know he doesn't belong around that table. Since my Bro's friend died I want to picture him in my picture as well. But how? He belongs in his own families picture. Harry Potter just popped in my head with the dead witches and wizards being able to go from picture to picture, I like that thought to move them around. I am begining to create this picture in my head of my parents 25th wedding anniversary at the local fire house. Many people were there. I am picturing my Dad sitting at the head table. My Grandparents are there bringing in the cake. My bro's friend is there setting up tables and chairs. They are getting ready for people to show up in my picture but they haven't arrived yet and it is still early. Hopefully nobody will show up early. Thank you for allowing me to type this out, It has helped me to get "the picture" in my head started so that I can remember my loved ones. Hopefully it will be a long time before I add more to it. How do you picture your loved ones? Do you have a picture like I do or am I weird?