Just a rant

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  1. Sneezer

    Sneezer Well-Known Member

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    Just had to vent. I get so tired of people sometimes. There just doesn’t seem to be much trust anymore. Just recently I thought I would get on FB marketplace to see if I could find a couple things. A few campouts ago I accidentally backed over my favorite lightweight camp kitchen I used for scout camping. Not salvageable. Since we haven’t been camping since it wasn’t a big issue, but every once in a while I’ll do a search in case I find a decent one that would work.

    Sure enough, find a guy about 30 min away who has a Kelty Basecamp kitchen, been discontinued for a couple years. Looks like it will fit the bill and then some, good condition although bag is a little worn/faded. Tell him I will get it, gives me his address. He advises today doesn’t work, I had conference calls all day on Monday, but I could come up Wed and pick it up. All good. Message him tonight to confirm a time to meet “Oh, meant to text you, some guy came and picked it up today”. Ugh - I am half tempted to sign him up for porn or something.

    Got a busted ipod classic, needs a new motherboard. Same thing - thought I would lookk jsut to see, find one in the next town over, same model but bad battery, selling cheap. Figured why not, message him, again get an address, agree to meet in the morning since it is late. Text him that I am about to leave, “Oh sorry, I just sold it to someone else”. Really?

    I mean, is it really that hard to be decent and have good manners? I ran into the same thing years ago when I was looking for my pup, but that was about the only time I saw this behavior with any regularity, and considering it took time out of your day to show a pup and not have it sell I can understand that. I have bought and sold stuff off CL and FB for years, and it seems within the last year I have seen more examples of this sort of thing. Really makes you wonder about our collective future. I always advise other potential buyers of their place in line, it just seems the right thing to do, and keep everyone informed of what is transpiring.

    Ok, rant over, thanks for listening/reading, or not. I’m just going to forget about the general public for a bit, and go back into my cave.
     
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    PopUpSteve Administrator

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    Two reasons as I see it.

    One, people get burned a few times when selling something where the buyer never shows or some troll messing with people sellers. After that happens a few time, they just sell to the first guy to show-up.

    Two, some people are just plain old stupid / ignorant.

    I had a troll once who lived over 150 miles away and wanted to buy some propane tanks I was selling. I could see on the app where he was and I had in my text my general location (never meet at you own place). When I said he was he was too far away for me to take his offer seriously, he texted me "where U at?". My reply was "U is toward the end of the alphabet". Never heard from him again.
     
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    Old_Geezer Well-Known Member

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    Sign him up for porn LOL!
     
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    All you can do is move on..... some people are just jerks. I've had the same thing happen, only worse. Drove 3 hrs to Maine to buy something large. Was on the exit ramp when the woman called and said, 'don't drive here, I just sold the item to someone else'. I let her know over the phone that I was enroute there three hrs earlier. It was all I could do to not drive the last 5 minutes to her house... but who needs getting arrested?!
     
  5. mandinga

    mandinga Active Member

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    I understand the sellers point as well. I have sold a lot of things I have posted online. I have turned away several great buyers because I promised it to someone else, and then they never show. However, if someone is going to drive a distance to come to me, I will hold out for them.

    I have also been selling items for $40, where the person wants me to deliver 3 hours away, but is "willing to pay the full $40".
     
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    Fortunately, there are still a few good people out there. When I called about my pup the owners said I was the first one to call. They answered all my questions and I told them I was interested. We figured I was about an hour-long drive from them and since it was late we would meet the next day. In the mean time they received multiple local calls about the pop-up with people telling them they wanted to buy it. The owners called me the next morning and asked if I was still interested; I said yes. They then asked if I could meet before noon and told me they had a lot of interest but would hold it till then. All worked out, I bought the pup and thanked them profusely for being considerate enough to keep their word and allow me the first opportunity to buy.
     
  7. nineoaks2004

    nineoaks2004 Every meal is a picnic and every Day is a holiday

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    Works both ways, DW sells a lot of items IE: Goats, and "stuff" online People want you to hold an item for them, which you do and they do not show up as agreed and will keep putting off the meet for the sale. meanwhile several people that really want the item are on hold due to buyer #1 they get discouraged from the wait. plus there are so many scammers out there that nothing is safe from their scams. I do agree that a deal is a deal and common courtesy should be the guide but some people do not know what courtesy is.
     
  8. tzmartin

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    Yeah, I hear ya. It sucks. But I'm on the sellers side of this, having been burned by several trolls. I've held items as I've waited in vain for them to show. I think one of them was probably sitting in the parking lot watching me as I waited. How would I know? It's the risk of buying and selling online. I would say they should have texted you immediately when they sold it.
     
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    I just had a similar thing happen to me driving from Lancaster to Allentown PA to see a hybrid camper. Had asked to come see it on a Monday and she wasn't able so I went Tuesday after work. Was 15 minutes from her house when she called and told me she just sold it to someone that came to see it on Monday! I was furious for the whole 2+ hour drive home.
     
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  10. jmkay1

    jmkay1 2004 Fleetwood/Coleman Utah

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    I agree with you, and common curtesy/manners is going on the way side. I was brought up to be courteous, respectful and polite yet at times I feel so alone in those efforts. It’s sad and disgusting how far away we have gotten away from those values. In your situation I can also understand why they sell to the first person that shows up on their door step because they have been burned too many times Before . People can’t be trusting around strangers anymore. It is frustrating Especially if your already on your way, but at the same time I can see their side too.
    I’m an accountant so see fraud on a regular basis. We’ve been burned as a company a few times as well. Can’t count how many fraudulent checks have come across my desk, heck we’ve even seen our fair share of fraudulent cash Too. We once had a fraudster copy one of our Own checks which he used to buy stuff from Craigslist and face book marketing. When those unsuspecting people called us demanding why we denied payment, the only thing we can do is direct them To the police. We had to field hundreds of calls of very angry people because the fraudster went on essentially a shopping spree with a handful of fake checks. The best moment was when said fraudster attempted to cash a fraud check at our own bank hoping to get cash. He must have caught on there was a problem so took off running The second the bank called me. We were laughing our heads off as he got a taste of his own medicine and hopefully now in jail.
     
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    I understand their side too. 1st come, 1st buy is exactly that. In my situation I was mad she she showed the camper to the eventual buyer the day I wanted to see it, but would show it to me...and never said she had someone else looking at it before me that was interested in it. But whatever, I'm over it lol. We ended up buying new so I just had to fix the shoddy craftsmanship issues and not the previous owners problems as well :D
     
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    I've got one that goes the opposite direction
    Was looking last year for a small camera system for my grand daughter to use on our annual camping trip. Spotted one on kijiji, priced well below the average selling price. Met the seller at a neutral site. The camera wouldn't turn on and she explained she didn't think of charging the battery. I said I understood but seeing as the battery might need replacing offered 50.00 less than asking as I was taking the risk she accepted
    Two days later I start getting emails from her asking for the extra 50.00....I explained how "risk taking was on me at the time and IF the camera had been pooched would she have offered me a refund"?.....Dead silence....except again asking for the extra 50.00. I politely said no as I DID have to replace battery (wouldn't hold charge). 5 EMAILS later had to report her to kijiji and have her band for harassment.
     

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